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Well in my previous posts I mentioned that I was very late picking up my son. I had the intention, capacity but my attention was elsewhere. So now what. Yes ADHD altered how the plan was supposed to go. After a few days of lots of pondering I realized that the alarm was not the message I needed. Like "hey stop with the spreadsheet, go to pick up NOW". I needed the message more clearly stating its connection to my intention. So when we know our child's intention and make the m

I had the intention to bring my child home. I set an alarm to help with my attention. I had the capacity- a car, ability to drive it and I knew the route. My alarm also was supposed to help with my capacity to track time. So what happened? I heard my alarm and physically could not pull my attention from my spreadsheet. I was totally in hyper-focus mode. I heard the alarm and actually said to myself " oh that's just some alarm on my phone". So A+I=C still applied but I was inc

(Intention+Attention)xCapacity= likelihood for success Intention is person driven. Children and parents often assume their intentions match. Have a conversation. Consider how much you have control over the internal intentions of another person, not much. Children have their own autonomy and independent thinking thus their intentions are their own. If your child’s intentions do not align with your expectations a conversation is necessary but not sufficient. Consider how your

Holy cow! Let's talk waivers. I feel fortunate to be in Boulder County, CO because we a community of supportive organizations and parents. But phew the waiver process is worth a discussion with your Community Centered Board (CCB). There are several funding streams available to help families with disabled children. Please do not let the term disabled stop you from learning more. You'd be surprised what we get used to as parents that is not comparable to our children's peers. L

2 days off school was REALLY hard for me. To trust, that kids (mine included) want to succeed when they can (thanks Dr. Ross Greene) is my mantra. So yes, I'm trying something different. I have to say it worked. Now, I'm not saying missing school is for everyone or for every circumstance. But in this situation we are carefully navigating away from autistic burnout adn have a very supportive school. I felt like it was the right moment to trust my child's insight and desire to

Today I challenged myself to try something different. I've done the push-my-kids-to-school approach echoing how I grew up. I went to school unless I was puking, had a high fever or was just skipping to be in the rarely-scene sunshine of upstate NY. Did this "east coast" work ethic. Did it get me over the morning sluggish lumping, sometimes. But that's not who my eldest is. We talk about feelings, we talk about spoons, burn out, recharge, mental health days. I've planted seeds

Parenting is personal journey, I hope to bring you the knowledge, creativity and confidence needed to enjoy parenting within your unique and beautiful family. As people, we become parents in many different ways, but no matter how you joined the Parenting Club, it is probably full of unexpected twists and turns. If you are here, you are probably looking to normalize your experience and get some support. Take comfort, you are not alone, and you've found your place. New baby, to